In the current discussion about the pros and cons of sexual submission, it is misleading I think to genderize the issue. It may be true that guilt and repression have affected men and women unequally through the ages, and that women have seen the uglier side of it.
But consider also that sex is, at its best, transcendental. It is about losing oneself, submerging oneself, shedding one’s identity, astro-projecting, merging for a moment or two with the life force beyond our separation into genders and individuals.
Males want that as well as females. Perhaps their urges and anatomy lead them to express and experience it differently. Perhaps, in the case of the male, it is more of an option in an array of approaches to the boudoir. Perhaps not. Female passivity never was an anatomical necessity, and is certainly not mandatory for male satisfaction.
Unless we can get beyond the sexual politics and view sexual submission in a similar light to any other transformative experience, this will remain a needlessly divisive topic. Submission is, in the best circumstances, open to equal opportunity. Human nature isn’t going to change. So let’s let our bruised, or otherwise restrained, egos rest on the subject. Submission is here to stay.
